E136 - Jillian Turecki: How To Find Love, Keep Love & Become Love

Listen to this episode from Know Thyself on Spotify. Relationship expert Jillian Turecki reveals how to overcome the blocks that ruin relationships and begin crafting your love life from within. Jillian shares her personal journey, detailing the pivotal moments of miscarriage and divorce that transformed her perspective on love and relationships. She emphasizes that love truly begins with oneself, urging listeners to self-source their wholeness before seeking it in others. As the conversation unfolds, we delve into the pitfalls of expectations and how they can undermine relationships, while also discussing the importance of mindful approaches to love.Jillian offers insights on how relationships act as mirrors, reflecting our inner selves and highlighting compatibility, especially during the often-glamorous honeymoon phase. Together, we demystify the concept of self-love, challenging societal misconceptions about love and relationships. We tackle tough questions like whether to break up or stay together, the dangers of falling for someone's potential, and identifying red flags, even those that may seem overly nice. Finally, we explore what men and women generally seek in relationships and the profound lessons she has learned about love, including the importance of making peace with our parents. This conversation is not just about finding the right partner; it’s a deep dive into understanding ourselves better, fostering healthier relationships, and ultimately creating the love life we desire. Sponsor:Convenient and affordable therapy with BetterHelp. Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month:https://www.betterhelp.com/knowthyselfAndré's Book Recommendations: https://www.knowthyself.one/books___________0:00 Intro1:10 Miscarriage & Divorce: The Turning Point that Changed Her Life7:23 Love Begins With You10:40 Self Sourcing Your Wholeness14:55 Expectations Ruin Relationships21:34 Finding the One & Surviving the Honeymoon Phase27:38 Demystifying Self Love 30:37 Ad: BetterHelp32:13 Our Culture Gets This Wrong About Love37:24 Should You Break Up or Stay Together? 41:47 Don’t Fall in Love with Potential45:40 Red Flags: Are They TOO Nice?50:16 Cultivating Trust in Love & Life56:48 What Men & Women Really Want (Generally)1:02:17 Making Peace with Your Parents1:08:08 The Biggest Lesson She’s Learned from Love1:10:30 What It Means to Know Thyself 1:12:31 Conclusion ___________Jillian Turecki is a relationship coach, teacher, podcaster, writer, and speaker who has devoted her life to helping people revolutionize their relationships with themselves. For over 20 years, Jillian has maintained a deep commitment to authenticity, compassion, and inner transformation as she follows her insatiable curiosity about what makes relationships thrive. Between Jillian’s podcast, “Jillian on Love,” her newsletter, “Love Weekly,” and her social media community, Jillian reaches millions of people who seek her actionable, compassionate, direct, and research-driven insight. As the founder of Jillian Turecki Coaching, Jillian has changed the lives of countless individuals around the world through her transformative workshops, courses, retreats, and one-on-one coaching sessions. Her forthcoming book is a groundbreaking look at love, partnership and self-love based on Jillian’s decades of experience and research.Book "It Begins With You": https://www.jillianturecki.com/bookWebsite: https://www.jillianturecki.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/?hl=en___________Know ThyselfInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/Website: https://www.knowthyself.oneClips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ4wglCWTJeWQC0exBalgKgListen to all episodes on Audio: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4FSiemtvZrWesGtO2MqTZ4?si=d389c8dee8fa4026Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/know-thyself/id1633725927André DuqumInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreduqum/