Child Attachment Expert: Hidden Dangers Of Daycare, It Might Be Causing Future Issues For Your Kid! Birth Rates Are Plummeting & Its Terrifying! Dr Erica Komisar

Listen to this episode from The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett on Spotify. Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert with over 30 years of private practice experience. She is the author of books such as, ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety’.  In this conversation, Erica and Steven discuss topics such as, how the mental health crisis is impacting children, how attachment disorders are created in childhood, the dangers of the falling birth rate, and how daycare may cause future issues for your kid. 00:00 Intro02:21 Erica's Mission08:12 Who Are Erica's Patients?09:35 How Have Social Changes Influenced Parenting?13:00 Is the Role of a Mother More Important Than That of a Father?16:30 Why Are Fathers Important From a Biological Level?23:20 Erica's Unpopular Ideas About Parenting25:17 Family Diaspora: Raising Children Without Extended Family27:31 Can Raising Children Away From Extended Family Be Justified?28:30 Voluntary Childlessness29:25 Attachment Disorders33:40 How Do Attachment Disorders Manifest in Adulthood?34:54 Choosing a Partner Based on Attachment Styles36:20 Predicting Relationship Success Based on Attachment Styles37:53 Does Having More Children Correlate With Neglect?39:19 Decline in Birth Rates41:23 What Is Unique About Relationships With Your Own Children?43:12 What Contributes to Growing Infertility Among People?46:45 How Did Erica Manage to Balance Work and Motherhood?48:48 Should Fathers Be the Stay-at-Home Parent?51:18 Harlow's Study on Rhesus Monkeys53:38 The Challenge of Motherhood in Poor Socioeconomic Conditions57:36 Does More Paid Leave Equal Better Childcare?59:10 Connection Between Upbringing and Success in Adult Life01:01:40 ADHD: Why Has It Risen So Much in the Past Decade?01:07:40 We're Medicating ADHD Wrong01:09:26 The Top Stressors We're Exposing Our Children To01:11:29 Is ADHD Hereditary?01:16:50 What's Wrong With Medicating Children?01:21:15 The Link Between Stress and ADHD01:22:23 What to Do if a Kid Screams in a Supermarket01:25:54 The Different Types of Trauma01:32:43 Same-Sex Couples Taking Roles01:38:50 What Should Career-Driven Mothers Do?01:42:08 Not Everyone Can Do This Stuff01:45:25 Children Don't Need Other Kids Until the Age of 301:47:00 Ads01:48:59 What's So Important at 3 Years Old?01:55:32 Can I Repair My Trauma and Brain Past My 30s?01:58:44 Our Pain and Trauma Are Rooted in Childhood02:02:33 Is "Daddy Issues" a Thing?02:06:33 Are We Taking Men's Purpose Away?02:10:42 Men's Testosterone Drops When They Become Fathers02:13:03 What Happens When Men Become the Primary Caregiver?02:16:22 Should We Split Schools Into Genders?02:19:11 Testosterone Decrease02:21:12 Raising Healthy Kids in a World of Technology02:24:45 The Importance of Being Present With Your Child02:25:48 What Should Employers Do?02:27:22 Do You Realise How Controversial the Things You Say Are?02:28:02 The Reason All of This Is So Personal to You02:30:58 What Does Your Obituary Say?Follow Erica: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/pwv9PCz0lRb Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/2EKsgfB0lRb Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/OPtiA4a8lRb You can purchase Erica’s books:‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety’, here: https://amzn.to/41CKbWd 'Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters' - https://www.amazon.com/Being-There-Prioritizing-Motherhood-Matters/dp/0143109294The The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb Follow me:https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKbIndependent research: https://stevenbartlett.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/DOAC-Erica-Komisar-Independent-research-further-reading.pdfSponsors:ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% offWHOOP - https://JOIN.WHOOP.COM/CEO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices