What Healing Really Is (and Isn’t) After Betrayal Humility, Choice, and Community –with Wendi Cohen

Listen to this episode from FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal on Spotify. “Just because you make the final decision does not mean you were the cause.” — Lora Cheadle “Healing” gets thrown around a lot—but in real life it’s messy, non-linear, and humbling. In this intimate conversation, Lora and healer/mentor Wendi (formerly of the Chopra Center; now on the Lee Harris team) unpack what healing actually looks like after infidelity, health crises, and identity rupture—and why your “opening” matters more than any timeline. If you’ve ever wondered, Why don’t I feel better yet? Am I doing this wrong?—this episode is for you. Lora and Wendi reveal the lived truth of recovery: three steps forward, two back; grief cycling; learning to receive; and choosing yourself even when others don’t approve. You’ll hear how meditation created space beyond the mind, why the body never lies, how community can “hold the frequency” when you can’t, and the liberating shift from I am my story to I write my story. Expect practical reframes you can use today—especially if you’re a high-achieving woman who’s tired of doing it all alone.   Top 3 Takeaways Healing is non-linear (and normal). Think Chutes & Ladders, not a straight line. You’ll revisit layers like grief, anger, and acceptance—and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. Humility opens the door. Letting go of the “if I do everything right, bad things won’t happen” myth creates room for curiosity, compassion, and real change. You’re allowed to choose you. Boundaries, receiving support, and rewriting the narrative are acts of power. Your agency—not other people’s opinions—defines your direction. Episode Highlights The “opening”: the moment you realize you can author a different story than the one you were handed. From people-pleasing to permission: upsetting others vs. honoring your inner yes. Mind-Body-Spirit integration: why meditation quiets the narrative so the body’s intelligence can be heard. Community as medicine: when you can’t hold the frequency, let safe containers hold it for you. Identity shifts: you are not your past roles (spouse, fixer, PTA star, marathoner); you are the one choosing what’s next. Resources Mentioned Group meditation & mantra practice (Chopra Center origins) Lee Harris retreats/“Soul Magic” weekends Nature as regulation (beach, trees, grounding) A Course in Miracles prompt: “Am I willing to see this differently?”   About Wendi With contagious joy and heart, all that Wendi Cohen offers is with the intention of healthy change.   She has been a dynamic and instrumental force helping people from all over the world as an educator and mentor in the field of spirituality and wellness. Highly regarded for her many years at the Chopra Center for Wellbeing, she managed and facilitated their signature program, Perfect Health. Working with Dr. Deepak Chopra and being involved with cutting edge research in meditation and Ayurveda there, Wendi has been up close and personal with the brightest minds in the wellness industry. Now working with Lee Harris Energy, she is the Director of Studio Operations and a producer who uses her creative prowess, intuition and vision to support transformational work. What makes her special in this field, is that she found meditation and mindfulness on her own path to healing after being diagnosed with a rare and chronic illness in 2003. Her insatiable curiosity and ability to think outside of the box led her to looking at integrative approaches. That is when she had profound shifts in her health and also fell in love with meditation. As a result of her journey, Wendi has a deep capacity to understand the many challenges people face when looking at healing and transformation. She is also a board certified Integrative NLP Practitioner and trained in Authentic Communication. Being of service is when Wendi is the happiest - supporting people so they feel more peaceful, clear, and grounded, experiencing more love and inspiration in their lives is what lights her up. Her mantra is "follow the fun" and that is EXACTLY what she hopes to inspire in others.   The Humility of Healing..... By Wendi Cohen   Healing is often a misunderstood journey that reveals lessons in humility and the chance for deep learning, uncovering aspects of ourselves, if and only if, we are willing to look at them. By allowing and receiving, staying open and getting creative, thinking with our hearts while feeling our bodies, there can be some profound shifts in how we experience the challenge - whether it is physical, emotional or heart based. In my case, it was learning to navigate a new 'normal' after a life-changing diagnosis that rocked my world. My path has been messy while stunningly beautiful, scary and empowering - filled with moments I'd never ever want to revisit AND also so many moments of being the recipient of so much love and generosity, from unexpected places. When we have a better understanding that healing isn't necessarily linear - that it can be like a game of chutes and ladders or riding a roller coaster that takes your breath away, heart opening and heart breaking - but with the infusion of creativity, receptivity, a sense of humor and beginning new each day, it can become less jarring.  Now twenty years later, to have had the good fortune to learn and then work with some of the most extraordinary visionaries, teachers, healers, and with my clients, I am truly humbled by it all - the good, the challenging and what has yet to come.   Favorite Quote “Healing isn’t something you do once and finish. It’s the willingness to meet yourself again and again—with humility, curiosity, and love.” — Wendi   🌟 Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you’ll receive: ·        2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th ·        Channeled message from The Librarians ·        Somatic processing and spiritual rituals ·        Legal insight to protect your peace ·        Sisterhood support from women who truly get it You don’t have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free. Join now » www.SparkleAllSeason.com       LOVE THE SHOW? 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