39. Lindsey Metselaar of We Met at Acme: 45 Straight Minutes of Amazing Relationship Advice

Listen to this episode from CAPS LOCK on Spotify. In this episode, Lindsey Metselaar of We Met at Acme returns for a follow-up episode. During our first conversation (episode 23, for anyone who's curious), we chatted all about the state of dating in 2025—but today, we're here for the girlies in relationships. New ones, forever ones, ones with kids, and everything in between. Lindsey is truly that girl when it comes to giving the absolute best, realest, and most effective relationship advice. Listen to this episode if you're in a relationship, or if you literally ever plan to be in one again. Key moments: 01:33 “Everything else is perfect, but he hasn’t said ILY” 02:59 Saying “I love you” first 06:34 Lindsey’s 3-3-3 rule in relationships 09:38 Having the timeline conversation before it’s too late (and how to bring it up) 10:58 What if I didn’t have the timeline convo early on??? Now what?? 12:11 Having an argument with your partner can actually be a good thing… 14:35 Bringing insecurities from past relationships into your new one 16:41 What should be easy vs. what’s okay to be “hard” in a relationship? 18:15 You should have 10% insecurity in your relationship 18:40 Getting comfortable in a relationship (like…too comfortable) 18:47 Gaining “healthy relationship weight” 21:25 The worst thing you can do in a relationship (unexpected!!!) 22:49 How to keep the romance alive after moving in together 26:31 How to split finances in a relationship - before and after living together 32:31 Making their friends and family fall in love with you 34:19 How to get him to propose 35:03 “If he takes you for granted, give him a glimpse of what life is like without you” 36:15 Does “taking a break” ever actually work? 37:36 How to make sure wedding planning doesn’t get the best of you 41:18 How does being married change your relationship? 41:32 How do kids change your relationship? 43:20 Lindsey’s #1 tip for maintaining your relationship after kids Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHOOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FunctionHealth.com/CAPSLOCK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow along: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.tiktok.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠  YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.threads.net/@lifeincapslock⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices