*NEW* Body Language Expert: When You Do This You Look like A Loser...(Sorry But You Do)! This Is The Real Reason You're Still Single!

Listen to this episode from The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett on Spotify. Can you make someone like you in seconds? Vanessa Van Edwards returns with the science-backed secrets of dating and likeability - tested in real-life dating scenarios for the very first time.  Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of Science of People, a platform dedicated to teaching the skills of communication, charisma, and leadership. She is the bestselling author of ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’. 00:00 Intro 03:02 How Important Is It to Master the Skill of Communication? 03:33 Are We Set in Our Ways? Is Charisma Genetic? 04:18 Different Types of Awkwardness in People 04:53 How to Make Friends – The 3 Core Friendship Values 06:37 How Do You Figure Out Your Core Friendship Values? 07:34 How Many People Has Vanessa Taught These Skills? And What Do They Want? 08:18 First Impressions 10:24 Profile Pictures 14:10 Add Cues for a Better First Impression 15:28 How Sunglasses Block Connection 16:21 More Good Cues for First Impressions 16:54 How Do I Make a Really Bad First Impression? 18:30 What We Need to Signal to Express Warmth 21:27 Breaking the Script 23:19 Master Communicators and the "Chemical Cocktail" 28:11 Online First Impressions 29:11 Be the Red Apple 30:17 How to Make an Impression on Zoom 32:08 The Story Toolbox 35:07 How Important Is Background on Zoom? 36:29 Where to Look on Zoom Calls 37:16 Date Experiments 43:09 Drivers and Passengers in Conversation 44:23 Micro Wins 45:05 Body Language That Indicates Attraction 49:35 Why Busyness Is Not a Mark of Success 51:16 The Jam Study – Too Many Choices 52:12 Prioritizing Self-Care Over Connection 53:08 Dating Checklists 54:23 Do We Get More Numb the More We Date? 55:32 Two Challenges If You're in a Funk or Feeling Lonely 58:26 Steve Being a Control Freak 01:00:14 Networking Events 01:00:55 Ads 01:09:20 Using the Word "Because" as a Leader 01:11:01 How Do We Know If Someone Likes Us? 01:14:20 What If You're Not a Funny Person? 01:16:09 Can You Learn to Be Funny? 01:16:57 Touch 01:18:10 Hacks for Being Funny 01:19:36 Channeling Other People 01:20:36 Microexpressions 01:21:37 Reading Fear in People's Faces 01:23:24 Seeing Disgust in People's Faces 01:25:09 How to Tell If Someone Is Angry Without Them Saying It 01:27:05 How to Tell When Someone Is Truly Happy 01:28:49 How to Tell If Someone Is Sad Even If They Don’t Say It 01:31:03 How to Tell If Someone Is Surprised 01:32:33 How to Tell If Someone Has Contempt Toward You 01:35:23 Can and Should We Change Our Personalities? 01:37:20 Steve's Personality Traits 01:38:49 Making Your New Partner Take a Personality Test 01:41:20 Conscientious People 01:57:05 Do Extroverts Have Better Immunity? 01:58:04 Personality Traits of Lifelong Singles 01:59:57 Should We Know Other People's Personality Types When We Meet Them? 02:01:38 Feeling Like the Vibe Is Off 02:03:31 What Are You Doing to Serve Others Follow Vanessa:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/4i5lvOnaqSb  Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/6KQtfyqaqSb  You can find out more about Vanessa’s personality test, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/SnXJL6ntqSb  You can purchase Vanessa’s book, ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/L0YqrVvaqSb  The 1% Diary is back – limited time only: https://bit.ly/1-Diary-Megaphone-ad-r…  The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards (Second Edition): https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Get email updates: https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt  Think like a CEO – join the 100 CEOs newsletter: https://bit.ly/100-ceos-newsletter  Follow Steven: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb  Sponsors: Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp Linkedin Jobs - https://www.linkedin.com/doac ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices