82. How EMDR Heals: Rewiring the Past, Reclaiming the Present, & Transforming through Trauma (with EMDR Expert Dana Carretta-Stein)

Listen to this episode from Figuring Sh!t Out on Spotify. Trauma is not what happens to us - it is what happens inside of us as a result of what happens to us.Which is why healing comes from the inside out -- through modalities that often get us out of the thinking mind and into the body.We've all heard it: The Body Keeps the Score. But what does that mean?In this episode, I sit down with Dana Carretta-Stein — a certified EMDR therapist and trauma-informed care expert whose work has informed a community of over 100,000— to unravel how EMDR Therapy actually works. Not just as a therapy, but as a powerful pathway for healing the past and reclaiming the present.We unpack what EMDR is and why it works, who it’s for, and why talk therapy isn’t always enough. We explore the overlap between ADHD and trauma, the importance of an attuned therapist, the phases of EMDR, and what healing really looks like when you’re finally ready to face the past.I also share my personal journey with EMDR — from mother wound work to reprocessing deep-rooted patterns I didn’t even know were trauma responses.This conversation is packed with insight, validation, and gentle encouragement for anyone navigating their own healing. For anyone who feels stuck, numb, and is carrying the weight of what hasn't been held yet -- may this conversation be a guiding light for you.xIF YOU LOVE FSO, PLS RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM, FOLLOW, & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE WITH A COMMENT!+ JOIN THE Community! For Bonus Meditations, Episodes, & Discounted/Free Access to WorkshopsDANA'S LINKS:Dana's WebsiteFree EMDR ResourcesDana's IGxStay Connected!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitout - DM Me "Invite" to learn more about The Road Less Travelers 4 week Course or 1:1 work!Personal Instagram: @vanessaafontanaTikTok: butterflyfountainMY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)Stan-Store (With Workshop Playbacks + Resources for Purchase being added as we speak!)CHAPTERS:0:00-6:30: Introduction6:30-9:00: What does Healing Mean to You?9:00-14:00: Trauma is Not an Event, It's An Experience14:00-18:00: The overlap between ADHD & Trauma. Rejection Sensitivity18:00-26:00: How is Talk Therapy Different than EMDR? Feeling & Processing vs "Out-thinking" or Intellectualizing26:00-40:00: My journey with EMDR, The Mother Wound, Attachment Trauma40:00-46:00: How do You know You're "Done" with EMDR?46:00-49:00: The Codependent Therapist/Patient Relationship & Importance of Attunement49:00-53:00: "Pre-Requisites for EMDR," Fear around Repressed Memories Resurfacing53:00-59:00: Results: What is the Biggest Change You've Seen in Someone through EMDR59:00-1:07: Finding the Right Therapist, Insurance, & Investment in your Healing1:07-1:09: EMDR & Joe Dispenza Overlap1:09-1:15: Why EMDR? & Who is the Therapists' Therapist?1:15-1:20: Road Less Traveled & Figuring Sh!t Out AdvicexGLOSSARY:DBT: Dialectal Behavioral Therapy / CBT: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - commonly used modalities of Talk Therapy EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing IFS: Internal Family Systems / Parts WorkSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donations