Unmasking the Good Girl: Stop People-Pleasing and Start Living for You

Listen to this episode from Shine In & Out: Where Science Meets Soul on Spotify. Description: Are you tired of feeling like you have to be “good” to be loved? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with self-worth & confidence coach Rosie Milsom to explore the good girl archetype — why so many women fall into it, the hidden costs of staying there, and how to reclaim your voice, worth, and true self. From childhood conditioning to chronic people-pleasing, we dive deep into how these patterns form, why they’re so hard to break, and the science behind nervous system regulation for lasting change. You’ll leave this episode with the tools, insights, and inspiration to step out of performance mode and start living fully as YOU. 🎯 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The 3 masks of the good girl: Pleaser, Prover, Performer Why people-pleasing is a survival strategy, not a flaw The hidden physical and emotional costs (including allostatic load) How to differentiate self-worth from confidence Practical steps to start breaking free — without guilt How neuroscience and polyvagal theory support authentic living ⏱️ CHAPTERS: 00:00 – Welcome & Introduction 01:17 – Rosie’s Journey: From Nonprofit Work to Coaching 05:05 – What Is the “Good Girl” Archetype? 08:45 – How Society Rewards & Shapes the Good Girl 14:34 – The Hidden Costs of Self-Silencing 20:28 – The Science: Allostatic Load & Chronic Stress 27:19 – The 3 Masks of the Good Girl 33:42 – Breaking the Pattern: Awareness & Self-Discovery 39:12 – Self-Worth vs. Confidence 43:01 – The Nervous System’s Role in Authentic Living 49:12 – Rosie’s Transformative Core Belief 54:32 – Final Message: You Don’t Have to Earn Your Worth 55:32 – How to Connect with Rosie 56:26 – Closing & Next Steps 📌 CONNECT WITH ROSIE MILSOM Instagram: @rosie_milsom_coaching Free Quiz – Find Your Hidden Confidence Block: https://rosiemilsom.scoreapp.com 📌 CONNECT WITH SAMMY STOLTZ Instagram: @shine.in.n.out Website: Shine In & Out Podcast: Shine In & Out on all major platforms 💬 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going If this episode resonated with you, comment below with your biggest takeaway and share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. 👍 LIKE this video 🔔 SUBSCRIBE for more science-meets-soul conversations 📩 SHARE with someone you love #PeoplePleasing #SelfWorth #GoodGirlSyndrome #PersonalGrowth #WomenEmpowerment #ConfidenceCoach #PolyvagalTheory #Neuroplasticity #AllostaticLoad #MindsetShift #FeminineEmpowerment