My Birth Father Is Either One of Two Twins… or Their Dad

Listen to this episode from Family Twist: A Podcast Exploring DNA Surprises and Family Secrets on Spotify. What if the first clue to your DNA surprise was hidden in your parents’ wedding video — and years later, the search pointed to identical twins?Episode OverviewIn this episode of the Family Twist podcast, Corey and Kendall talk with Emily, a fellow New England podcaster who uncovered her DNA surprise in an unforgettable way. As a child, she noticed she was in her parents’ wedding video, and that observation launched decades of questions about her identity.Emily’s journey stretched from childhood curiosity to a paternity test at Dunkin Donuts, to the unique complication of identical twins in DNA testing, and the heartbreak of a mother who could not talk about the past. Along the way, she faced silence, secrecy, and the reality that reunion is rarely the fantasy we imagine.This is a story of identity, resilience, and what happens when nature and nurture collide in unexpected ways.My Birth Father Is Either One of Two Twins… or Their DadWhat You’ll LearnHow a wedding video sparked Emily’s search for her biological fatherWhy secrecy and shame around conception left lasting scarsHow identical twins complicate DNA test results in family discoveryWhy a parent’s lack of curiosity can be as painful as rejectionHow adoptees and NPEs balance gratitude for their raising families with the right to know their originsEpisode Chapters00:00 – Welcome and introduction to Emily01:00 – Discovering she was in her parents’ wedding video02:00 – Learning she was adopted by her raising father03:00 – Secrecy and shame around her conception04:00 – Tracking down her first possible father05:00 – Paternity test at Dunkin Donuts06:00 – DNA testing with 23andMe, Ancestry, and GEDmatch08:00 – The identical twins twist10:00 – Meeting her biological father for the first time12:00 – Family synchronicities and high school connections14:00 – Building a relationship with her biological father and siblings16:00 – Navigating her mother’s silence18:00 – The weight of “you should be grateful” in adoptee experiences20:00 – Kendall’s parallels in adoption reunion24:00 – Managing reunion expectations versus reality26:00 – Finding connection through music28:00 – Closing reflections and resourcesResources and MentionsNew England Podcasters Group: Join hereRight to Know: righttoknow.usNPE Friends Fellowship: npefellowship.orgDonor Sibling Registry: donorsiblingregistry.comIf Emily’s DNA surprise story resonated with you, share this episode with someone navigating adoption, donor conception, or an NPE discovery. Subscribe to Family Twist on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Leaving a review helps more people discover stories of adoption reunions, family secrets, and DNA testing.Family Twist is a podcast about DNA surprises, NPE experiences, adoption journeys, and donor conception stories. Hosted by Corey and Kendall Stulce, the show features real conversations about identity, family, and belonging. In this episode, Emily shares how she uncovered her DNA surprise through a wedding video, the unique challenge of identical twin DNA results, and the impact of family secrecy on her search for truth.