VANESSA BENNETT | The Myths of Masculinity and Motherhood

Listen to this episode from Order of Man on Spotify. In 1992, John Gray released, “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.” It was important work then. It is just as (if not, more so) important today. Why do we as men struggle to understand what women are thinking and saying? And, why do women struggle just as much in understanding us? My guest today, Vanessa Bennet, author of “The Motherhood Myth,” and psychotherapist sheds some light on the reasons, including an inside look at what women are thinking and why. Today, we talk about the misunderstandings between men and women, why women aren’t interested in being with you as one of their children, why women are looking for leadership and respect from men, what is healthy womanhood and manhood, why safety is a key factor in attractiveness for women, and what it really means when a woman says, “I want a man who is vulnerable.” SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 — Intro & Costa Rica setup 02:02 — Miscommunication Between Men & Women 09:17 — Shadow Work & Shame 13:06 — Myths of Motherhood 18:07 — Finding the Middle (Pendulum Theory) 21:36 — Rupture & Repair in Relationships 30:10 — Choosing vs Needing: Desire & Partnership 33:06 — Leadership vs Dominance (What Women Want) 42:48 — Don’t Fix — Build Competence & Autonomy 50:26 — Safety & Parenting (why reliability matters) 59:43 — Preemptive Communication & Vulnerability 1:00:39 — Integrity & Follow-Through (why actions matter) Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready