The Most Important Love Language No One Talks About: Repair

Listen to this episode from This Tantric Life with Layla Martin on Spotify. ShownotesWhat most people don’t realize about the happiest couplesThe difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from traumaHow to never get ghosted againWhat exactly relationship repair is and why it’s importantWhy repair is an ongoing practiceFour of the most important skills required to repair successfullyBioBaya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster. She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya’s approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together. Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection. Learn more about Baya’s work on Instagram @bayavoce.Timestamps00:00:45 - Guest introduction00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership00:10:39 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com00:12:01 - What people don’t realize about the happiest couples00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you’re in a manipulative relationship00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:39:29 - The end of a partner’s capacity teaches you how strong you are00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again00:50:57 - Explore the magic of  MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair01:28:49 - Conclusion