Ryan W. on Knowingless

"It doesn't seem like you can end up in such a bubble without (primarily) selecting for it" I do think it's possible to select for it indirectly because polyamory has some correlates. Lets say you're enthusiastically involved in LARPing of one form or another. Or BDSM. (Not my thing, but I'm reasonably adjacent.) Basically, anything where people love costumes. This will land you in a fairly poly-rich social circle without your explicitly selecting for poly individuals. I can't speak for others, but my social circle has become weirdly incestuous (in a metaphorical sense.) I go to a big LARP and I end up running into friends and friends-of-friends. Neurodiversity seems to be another correlate of polyamory. "less able to be discriminative on 'core' positive traits (say, intelligence, beauty, humor). " If you're out in a rural area where the community is small, I agree with what you're saying. But lets say you like some niche sport. If only 10% of people like your sport, but you spend your time in stadiums full of fellow sports watchers, you don't have to sacrifice too much if you want to find a fellow sports watcher. Put another way; if you find any activity that has a community built around it, and you engage that community, you get that first filter and anything that comes with it without a reduction in the number of people in your effective social circle.