myst_05 on Knowingless

"But if you did manage to get into a committed relationship with this person, then they probably don’t have higher SMV; people tend to be pretty evenly matched, at least most of the time!" I think this is true for monog relationships, but not true for poly ones. - If a woman is telling a man she's in a poly relationship, this tends to raise the man's interest by default as men are much more open to sleeping around on average. - If a man is telling a woman he's in a poly relationship, this tends to significantly lower the woman's interest on average as most women want a monog relationship. Both of these come from personal experience. I've tried telling women I'm not interested in a serious relationship and most of the time this resulted in the woman in question losing interest. On the other hand I've never rejected a woman telling me she's looking for something casual, nor have I heard any of these women complain about men rejecting them (we had very open communication about these things). I would say I'm relatively good looking - I got 200 matches on Hinge over a month in a tech-heavy city on the West Coast (swiping selectively) and could probably schedule a date with a new woman I find attractive for 7 nights a week. But even at this level of attractiveness my success would be *much* lower if I told everyone I'm in a poly relationship or seeking to start a poly relationship. Out of curiosity I've always swiped right on women who openly said they're in a poly relationship on Hinge and never once got a match - this tells me that these women are swamped with attention, which is a complete opposite of what my own situation would be.