EP 56: Guest Amanda Asproni "My Unfaithful Keeps Wanting me, the Betrayed, to Rescue Them."

Listen to this episode from Sam's Healing Podcast on Spotify. Today’s episode of Sam’s Healing Podcast features a courageous and deeply empathetic interview with Amanda Asproni as we confront the raw realities of infidelity and betrayal trauma.   Together, we examine why so many unfaithful partners desperately want those they've betrayed to show up for them—longing for their partner to absorb and manage their shame, rescue them emotionally, and shoulder responsibility for healing, even after breaking trust. Amanda offers clear, compassionate insight into the tangled mix of guilt, regret, and helplessness that often overwhelms individuals who cheat, highlighting their yearning not to be cast as “the villain,” but as someone still worthy of grace and second chances. In parallel, the episode speaks to the devastation suffered by betrayed partners—especially those who are also survivors of childhood sexual abuse. With frank honesty, Amanda shares how the pain of abuse and infidelity can “murder the soul,” leaving a person gasping for air in a world of devastation, confusion, and total loss of safety. The heartbreak does not end with the exposure of the affair; it ripples through every part of a survivor’s life, sometimes reopening ancient wounds and triggering a cascade of trauma responses. This profoundly destructive impact is named, respected, and never minimized in our conversation.  The episode also speaks directly to the devastation suffered by betrayed partners, whether or not they are survivors of childhood sexual abuse.   Yet, the heart of today’s show is hope and practical help for both sides of these complex relationships. For the unfaithful, Amanda outlines the importance of facing shame head-on—not expecting the betrayed partner to fix or soothe what only the unfaithful themselves can resolve. Through self-reflection, accountability, and a commitment to genuine repair, the unfaithful learn that true healing starts only when they stop seeking rescue and start taking ownership for their choices and consequences. For betrayed partners and abuse survivors, today’s episode sends a powerful message of validation. You will hear a call to honor your pain, protect your boundaries, and pursue the kind of healing that puts your needs first—whether or not the relationship survives. Amanda and Sam discuss how survivors can reclaim their sense of safety and worth, refusing to be defined by betrayal or tragedy. With a direct but compassionate approach, today’s episode stands as a guide for moving honestly through pain, confronting shame together, and beginning the work of lasting recovery—no matter which side of infidelity you’re on. To Healing, Sam [email protected]