THE SHAME SPIRAL: How to stop feeling like a failure and embrace who you are

Listen to this episode from LATE BLOOMERS on Spotify. Why do so many people with ADHD struggle with shame? In this episode, Rox and Rich break down the cycle of self-criticism, exploring how productivity culture, masking, and forgetfulness fuel feelings of failure. Rox opens up about her own experiences with shame—from harsh self-talk and fear of judgment to the pressure to appear "put together"—and how it impacted her relationships, creativity, and mental health.Rich shares his perspective on supporting a partner with ADHD, highlighting the importance of compassion, communication, and breaking free from unrealistic expectations. Together, they unpack the difference between shame and guilt, why self-acceptance is essential, and how reframing your inner dialogue can transform your self-esteem.You’ll also hear practical tools for overcoming shame, including: Rewriting negative narratives about yourself Letting go of perfectionism and over-apologizing Doubling down on your strengths instead of fixating on your struggles Surrounding yourself with people who see and accept the real you If you've ever felt like you're "not good enough" or that your ADHD makes you a failure, this episode is a reminder: You are not broken. And it's time to start believing that.