Star-Crowned Ariadne (@starcrownedariadne)

I notice that women in general do not want to feel like they are holding up the structural parts of the operation. We want to be the one who takes the operation from good to great. We want to make a house into a home, and not have to build or maintain the house. That’s why we don’t want to bring in the bulk of the income. If our income is only supplementary, then if we are sick, pregnant or otherwise incapacitated, the family’s finances aren’t ruined. While times are good, our income can by the small luxuries that make life feel dignified and abundant. In hard times, our income can be the much needed nest egg. But if we are the breadwinner, that’s not the case. Then our money goes into the “daily spending” pot. In such marriages, we don’t feel protected. We feel like the protector, the pillar. And it’s very unattractive if our husbands can’t protect us.