Jeremy R Cole on Knowingless

One thing I always sort of wonder: polyamory can kinda start to express like a niche hobby. People who rock climb seriously mostly only hang out with other people who rock climb, etc. because to be good at rock climbing you have to rock climb a lot and that means you're spending most of your time rock climbing, which means that's how you meet most of your friends. It seems like if you spend your time going to polyamorous events and selecting for polyamorous people, you can end up in a polyamorous bubble, but that it actually looks even weirder than the rock climbing bubble to the outside because it threatens some core concepts of how relationships work. It doesn't seem like you can end up in such a bubble without (primarily) selecting for it, and it seems like once you limit yourself to such a filter, whether it be rock climbing or polyamory or dungeons and dragons, you're certainly naturally limiting who will end up in your friend group, and by extension, less able to be discriminative on 'core' positive traits (say, intelligence, beauty, humor). It seems to me that the result of this is, my guess, that people who are pretty happy with their polyamorous friend groups are probably quite good at making friends in order to achieve a good balance there. Maybe that sounds obvious, lol.